In recent Bachelor Nation news, Vanessa Grimaldi is engaged...again!
Grimaldi, who previously accepted former Bachelor Nick Viall's proposal on the 21st season of the show, shared her engagement to business exec Joshua Wolfe on her Instagram account. The two had been on a staycation to Quebec City at the Fairmont Le Château Frontenac (Grimaldi and Wolfe are both native Canadians).
According to the happy couple, Wolfe brought Grimaldi to the Saint-Louis Gate in Quebec City, where the steps were lined with lit candles and an accordion player was performing songs like "A Whole New World" from "Aladdin."
The 32-year-old special education teacher told People, "Josh is the first person I am with where I am at complete ease and where I never second-guessed his love for me. I’ve been ready to say ‘yes.’ I am the luckiest woman!"
As for her ex-fiancé, Viall sent his congratulations through the comments section on Grimaldi’s photo carousel, writing, "Well thank God I followed you back a week ago to hear this news. Congrats to you two! Lucky guy."
The twitch in my eyelid started, though, because the comment reminded me of another former Bachelor’s reaction to one of his ex-girlfriends’ success. Last week, speculation around next season of "The Bachelorette" put Tayshia Adams in the hot seat, as she’s rumored to have taken over for Clare Crawley. Adams was one of Colton Underwood’s runner-ups (he had several, because things got messy) on season 23.
When Underwood caught wind of the news, he tweeted in support, poking fun at himself for a comment Adams had made on "Bachelor in Paradise" when she, Caitlin Clemmens and Sydney Lotuaco had shared their (not great) experiences kissing Underwood on the show.
Now, there’s nothing bad about either Viall or Underwood’s comments. They’re wishing these women the best, which is the mature thing to do after a break-up -- especially very public ones. What gives me some pause is the fact that these men can’t seem to simply wish their exes well; both former Bachelors' congratulatory reactions were shaded with significant "me, me, me" undertones.
Viall is glad he followed Grimaldi back, so that everrryoneee knows he’d been the one holding out on the proverbial olive branch but ultimately decided to be the bigger person. Snaps for Nick. Viall’s need to include the fact that he hadn’t been following Grimaldi on Instagram until recently paints him as the macho man who doesn’t care about what his ex is doing (even though it must be the opposite for her), but he still comes off as supportive in the end.
Same with Underwood. He hopes Adams finds a better kisser, because, remember, she was in love with him first. He can’t just wish her good luck and good men and go on his way, oh no -- he needs to remind everyone that he’s still relevant, which...he's not.
Future "Bachelor" men, take note: Your ex-girlfriends’ successes can be hers and hers alone! Shoot off a simple, "Good on ya!" and go about your day.